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This blog is my shared process in working towards integrating self-awareness with all other aspects of life, while on my way to becoming more authentic and whole.

The Comfort Zone – ROE – Based in young-but-old fears…

These are your Rules of Engagement. If you dare become a defector to this regime of self-government – you’re on your own. But – you will be free. Therefore, choose consciously…

  • Do not be aware of what makes you feel uncomfortable.  At all cost: distract, explain/intellectualize/religionize away these demons and judge others who do not.
  • Don’t you dare welcome, examine, challenge, and shine on the other-side of leaving this comfort-zone.
  • Do not trust yourself.  Look outside for all validation, security, worth, and guidance, and remember to measure the outsides of others against your insides.
  • Interpret all mistakes as evidence that you’re not good/smart/strong/worthy enough, as is.
  • Strive for the appearance of perfection and “having it all together”.
  • Give a lot of fuks about what you cannot control, like other people’s business rather than your own, especially how they judge you.
  • Shrink to make others comfortable within their own comfort zones.
  • Do not be vulnerable/authentic and rock the boat of “normalcy”.
  • Always fear what the critics think, especially your own.
  • Shame and blame everyone else when things don’t go well. Never compassionately look at yourself. Ever.
  • Survival is the ONLY goal. And it’s survival of the ego.  
  • Fear and avoid any and all discomfort.
  • Do not let anyone in to see you. Rejection will not be risked.
  • Do not outgrow this comfort zone.  Conform and live survive.

Pain is the alarm system going off. It’s your Heart’s wake-up call to begin CONSCIOUSLY LIVING. It’s an opportunity saying, “You’ve outgrown your comfort zone.” Hit ‘Snooze’ (Warning: it comes on later) or – ARISE!! And get your lovely ass up…because you are worth it.

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One thought on “The Comfort Zone – ROE – Based in young-but-old fears…

  1. Oh how I could relate to so many of these points!
    I’ve never been an Evangelical but I was ‘forced’ to explore what was being taught in 1995 when our own family of 14 related by marriage was torn apart by a ‘church split’.

    I’ve recently recreated the introduction to my blog where I’ve written, “That was when I was introduced to and totally rejected American Evangelicalism as I understood it (a very long story).

    You might find this article interesting – https://outsidethegoldfishbowl.wordpress.com/an-outside-observer/

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