Being awake to what goes on inside of you helps you to sense your unique Self. Having an unconscious relationship (or insecure attachment for those who understand attachment styles) to your Self creates internal isolation and suffering.
Developing Self-awareness that doesn’t feed off of (but notices) the mental chatter or judgment(the kind of evaluating which leads to either self-contempt or self-aggrandizing) will energize and stabilize you the more you practice this.
Feeding off from judgment (towards Self and others) will cause spiritual decay and death. This happens when you are ignoring your inner world, which is a habit of the mind in a Self-abandoned state of consciousness.
The unexamined life is not worth living.
And the Lord God commanded the man, “You are free to eat from any tree in the garden; but you must not eat from the tree of knowledge of good and evil, for when you eat of it you will certainly die.”
I believe that the Bible contains within its page’s superb literature. I think it’s superb because I no longer see it telling me what to think, rather it MAKES me think. It MESSES with me. It engages with me and I it, deeply and reflectively. It is provocative literature.
For years now, off and on, I’ve been captivated by the story in Genesis 3, probably because I’ve always journaled this question “what’s wrong with me” ever since I was a teenager. “Nothing is wrong with you other than that you think something is wrong with you” is the rebuttal. Yet – that is a judgment that doesn’t completely resonate. It sounds corrective and even enlightening, but there’s something amiss and dismissive about it. The truth is, for as long as I can remember, I’ve always felt a subtle disquieted thing in my soul. It’s hard to explain. I wrote many pages trying to find out how it got there but the longer I seek insight and wrestle with this, the more I see that this is not a “me” phenomenon. This is not a “Kristen” issue. It’s not merely personal, it seems to be universal. The ancients seemed haunted by this and wrote down a profound story to try and answer “what’s wrong with us?” – that is how I see Genesis 3 in a nutshell. In other words, I’m not alone in this search. The ancient ancestors echoed this. Perhaps this is really a universal and human phenomenon. This story beautifully illustrates something profound and relatable to me even though it’s a very ancient story.
Yesterday I asked God to help me become less and less offendable over time. I thought about asking God to make me unoffendable and found several books on Amazon by Christians titled “Unoffendable” but I’m skeptical about the reality or implications of attaining that goal. I rest in the opinion that only God is truly and purely unoffendable, and Jesus demonstrated this. Yet for me, at least right now it boasts as too perfectionistic, and not very down to earth. I see spiritual bypassing to attain that goal, at least for me. Nonetheless, I’d like to become less easily offended. I told God that I’m pretty hypocritical in this respect, I have a low tolerance level for people (especially those who are closest to me probably because they mirror certain aspects of my shadow) who are easily offended and take everything so damn personally and react by hiding this fact and lash out at me for their shit. To be fair, I can admit that I do this too – but not as much as other people I can think of! Maybe I’m wrong and I need to first look at the log in my own eye…“Why do you see the speck in your brother’s eye, but do not notice the log in your own eye? Or how can you say to your brother, ‘Let me take the speck out of your eye,’ while the log is in your own eye? You hypocrite, first take the log out of your own eye, and then you will see clearly to take the speck out of your brother’s eye.” – Matthew 7:3-5, NRSV
I digress…irregardless, I told God and myself that I’m offended by how easily offended I am!
This morning these thoughts came… (I swear, I’m a bit obsessed with Genesis 3 again)…
Eating from the tree of knowledge of good and evil is about feeding off the narrative or getting my sense of self or identity or value from moral judgments about others including myself. Moralizing the Self and others leads to polarizing the Self and others. Having or possessing judgments versus them having or possessing me is a subtle but very important distinction. Humility grows with practicing this distinction.
Judgements about good and evil present as “desirable knowledge” that will elevate me. I do become a bit of a “God in my own image” as I feed my Self with moral judgements. I forget that I am ummm, NOT GOD. That role is not well fitted for me because when I take up this role unconsciously, blurred lines cross over into identity. Without humble conscious awareness, this creates relational ruptures within myself and others, to varying degrees. What is more useful is to focus more on judging what I can know to be true or false, for me.
I cannot know for certain what is right or wrong for others because I cannot perceive for others, objectively. I have a human bias, specifically I have a “Kristen bias” and you have a “(your name) bias”. This isn’t “good or bad” but I do believe it is what is, which is truth – simply what is.
I was listening to a Jordan Peterson podcast and Jonathan Haidt said something that has both struck me and stuck with me along similar lines of Genesis 3! Mr. Haidt said that “Moralism messes everything up” when Jordan asked him to clarify what he meant by “moralism” Mr. Haidt said “Moralism is that if you look at things in a framework not of true versus false but of right versus wrong, bad versus good, once you put on that frame…Tyler Cowen has a quote somewhere in a Ted Talk he says ‘We think in stories but as soon as you interpret things in a good versus evil story, your IQ drops by 10-15 points’….Arguments become all out war…you lose touch with truth and your goal is to win and strangely you win in ways that alienate the person you are trying to persuade…making your case with moral grandstanding…”
This really struck me as profound in light of the Genesis 3 story and the symbolic “tree of knowledge of good and evil”. Today I am witness that eating from this tree creates many problems; the least is of polarization and alienation between intimates and every level of society. When we receive our sense of identity, meaning, or value from our moral judgments/positions (eating from the tree of knowledge of good and evil), the environment for polarization is ripe. I suppose this is what Jonathan Haidt meant when he said “moralism messes everything up”. It’s not that having moral judgments is problematic, but rather – moralism is not merely possessing moral judgments, but being possessed by them – they are your source of life and identity and defending them starts to cause you to lose touch with a conscious state of what is true and what is false. And I would add what we don’t know is true or false, admitting that is admitting a kind of truth in itself which is ultimately what I’m coming to understand is humility. Owning and making peace with the truth of our human limitations with openness and acceptance is being in harmony with the truth. In contrast being offended and resistant to our limitations (humility) can lead to hiding from the truth within, and when we defend ourselves from owning our truths that we don’t like, there’s a self-rejection/denial that must be defended with something that is not so warm and sincere. This usually leads to being easily offended! Until we lean into and learn from discomfort, it’s a wise teacher.
Now when we intentionally make a move towards finding out what is true or false, not what is right or wrong, good or bad/evil – this will often prove more helpful for human relationships and civilizations to make and maintain progress.
I’m finding that approaching the bible not as a “moral rules” book is very satisfying to me. It’s a storybook. There are many ancient characters and themes that I find are still relevant and have profound implications for wisdom in daily living.
Lately I’ve been reflecting on what I believe about the Jesus story. Some believe this is a legendary story birthed out of conspiracy, some believe that this is a historical story based in people giving honest, human (fallible), accounts. I’m leaning more towards believing the latter, yet that’s why I trust it – its too imperfect to be conspiratorial and because of this I find it provocative and yes, even offensive at times. In some uncanny way this inspires me and touches me, in an ineffable way.
Now I suppose that any of these views on the Jesus story have their own implications. Personally, I believe he was a historical figure that died by means of Roman crucifixion and that the accounts of him being resurrected are honest (imperfect but not conspiratorial) accounts, and that the implications and meaning of this man’s life and death, and his teachings, are still being wrestled with inside myself and many others. I find this Jesus to be akin to how I find the bible; provocative, mysterious, and illuminating. I don’t see much space for retreating in the bunkers of neutrality while engaging with this stuff. So, on one hand, I guess I can understand why people are avoidant or hesitant to engage this fine piece of ancient literature called the bible. Studying the accounts of Jesus and his teachings isn’t “playing it safe”. This ancient literature is compelling to me (and others across time and culture) and forces me to think and reflect deeply about my life and the essence of life itself.
While there are many emotions I feel towards both the bible and Jesus (of which some seem to contradict each other) – indifference is not one of them. This is an area I am not complacent in, and at times I need a break because of that.
Who was Jesus? Who do others say that he was? Who do I say that he was? What are the implications of how I answer these, in the here and now? These are worth deeply and honestly contemplating for myself and with others who will not either moralize or patronize me, either way.
Truth is simple, it’s simply what is – uncovered. Truth is complex, it’s complexly what is – uncovered. Both observations are true.
Certainty is my kryptonite. My desire, attraction, and pull towards knowing and obtaining “right” thinking, “right” beliefs, or Certitude is where my servitude follows.
Certitude is my Achilles’ heel.
Wherefore Art Thou, Certitude? You are the illusion that seduces me when I’m at my most vulnerable brink.
My logical reasoning leads me with chords of un-ease to the melody of posturing antidotes of Certitude – so alluring, so alluring.
And yet – the more I search the earth’s crevices for You, The more abandoned I feel. Left with unending questioning of myself and You, I find this strange alchemy consisting of pleasure and pain.
Pursuing You, Thou Certitude is an addiction of the mind. The payoffs are immediate and fleeting, Though, the tolerance levels are becoming more and more demanding Leaving me with shorter peaks of peace-of-mind, tranquility, and random moments of bliss Just enough to keep me hooked.
The mountain tops of truth feel warmer Until a rebuttal challenges and destabilizes the former
What am I fervently searching for? Security. Safety. Truth.
A firm ground to lay and graze in, for me and my loved ones. This search springs from both love and fear which simultaneously can consume me, side by side.
I contend with the push-and-pull to let you go For fearing your absence is all I know
The notion of letting You go and accepting that
…You are an illusion Birthed from human existence and vulnerability… Birthed in relentless hope and resiliency…
This is not in the many books and paths I’ve poured my soul out to, in search of You. Perhaps this is part and parcel of the human journey for this soul who sits behind this screen, as both writer and reader.
Answers and Certitude aren’t found in man-made potions or notions Only illusions with half-truths, disguised as whole truths.
“Truths” that we devote ourselves to, and coerce others into believing, or else! Then divide over, for your good and mine, of course.
For we do not know fully and with certainty, and yet we still search and proclaim the insane… That only we have the full, exclusive, equally applicable truth for all; adhere…or else.
This madness, this arrogance Isn’t easy or simple to spot or stop. It’s all too often desperately and aggressively ridiculed, while practiced.
Well, this is an integral part of what it means to be in the human tribe. It’s hard to make sense of. At least for me, in this season.
All emotions are welcome to eat, at the table of consciousness. I affirm the valuable energy and wisdom, equally inherent in all emotions.
I uphold a non discrimination policy regarding emotions. I also acknowledge that our western culture privileges certain emotions being tolerated, expressed, and openly shared, while other emotions remain underprivileged and discriminated against in the guise of being “virtuous”, “spiritual” and/or “strong” and “having it together”.
A multi-emotional diversity culture is a culture in which we co-create, with the intention of becoming more intimate and consciously aware of our inconspicuously held conditioning which reinforces emotional bias, ignorance and spiritual bypassing. And then, update and expand this space to fully inhabit YOU.
This conditioning may often privilege comfortable emotions, while implicitly or explicitly, discriminates and devalues emotions that aren’t considered as “acceptable” or “appropriate” because they cause discomfort (to others or yourself), namely unnamed shame.
I’ll call this kind of emotional discrimination: “Emotionalism”
Many of us have internalized emotionalism. It is a form of Self-denial and emotional dishonesty, but can often mistakenly be considered “spiritual” or “conscious evolution” in certain circles.
Perhaps it is.
Perhaps it isn’t.
We can delve into this if you’ve got a subtle but undeniable inkling that there’s more to it. More to you. And, you’re ready to go deeper inside.
Contact me if you feel a curiosity with your emotions, yet can relate to internalized emotionalism. I have personal, lived-experience in recovering and healing from this all too common intrapersonal dynamic. The freedom and deeper level of trust and respect from within, is so worth it. This is a labor of love through Emotional Empowerment Coaching, where we value all your emotions, and can utilize the energy contained within emotions in a life-giving way that does no harm to others, or self.
Often we take up a kind of space inside without conscious awareness of what that space holds, or doesn’t hold for us.
Often, we need a present, presence of another to ask, inquire, pause and reflect with a curious, humble, and genuinely interested person who is focused on making the space to illuminate and bring forward what’s going on inside without knowing what will be found.
The deeper vulnerable aspects of us are often not readily accessible with just any kind of space. There’s a shyness that marks this kind of space, a hiding, and yet a longing to come out of hiding. What can call forth this coming out of hiding?
Deep and abiding presence without pretense or a hidden agenda to “fix” you, but rather to know and seeyou, and deeply respect all that shows up.
I believe this kind of space is healing, transformational, illuminating, and deeply spiritual. This kind of seeing and witnessing inside ourselves, while another witnesses and holds this kind of space is profoundly divine and yet, based in human to human connection.
This kind of showing up isn’t for the faint at heart. It takes incredible courage because this is risk-taking in the most profoundly vulnerable level – being fully seen. This act is one of honor and courage.
We’ve learned many defensive mechanisms to avoid this at all costs, yet we also crave this kind of nurturing presence like a baby craves being safely and warmly held. It’s innate. It is also something I’ve found that is contagious. When you’ve experienced being in this kind of space, you will start to pass this kind of space-making onto first yourself, then to others. It’s contagious in an empowering and soul-freeing way.
Learning to tune into our emotions on the way to taking up residence in this space is an act of defiance against our self-sabotaging fears, as well as an act of taking back core energies that we need in order to thrive. This often requires us to do some work in practicing feeling some intense discomfort and knowing that these discomforts come and go, and strengthen us with each passing wave.
Often we need the present, presence of another while we expand our level of conscious awareness while the ego or old survival patterns pull out all of their stops to keep us inside an outdated comfort zone.
My coaching style involves a combination of inquiry, curiosity, gentleness, and authenticity. This isn’t about perfection or propriety, rather this intentional presence gives you permission to show up authentically with me. My commitment is to bring in the full presence of my intuition, curiosity, and honoring the trust-seeking to usher in this kind of space where you will also practice ushering in this kind of space for yourself and others. It’s a practice for yourself that’s so incredibly worthwhile, just like you. I’d be honored to join you on this part of your journey.
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I was recently asked if I was a “glass is half-empty” or “glass is half-full” kinda gal, to which I said “Both. I’m a ‘glass is half-empty and half-full’ kinda gal, because both are simultaneously true when it’s true.”
In certain cases, positivity is more of a vice than a virtue when it’s fueled by emotional dishonesty in my relationships. It’s not virtuous to deceive myself or others, regarding how I think or feel, just to appear or sound “positive”. I believe this kind of emotional deception can actually lead to disconnection and depression, are those “positive”?
It takes a level of courage to practice vulnerability and allow yourself to be fully seen by others. This is vital for intimate connection, which starts with being honest and clearest with myself. Sure, I can admit that I don’t like how I feel or think because they make me feel uncomfortable or unpleasant. But to omit them from conscious awareness and prevent me from attending to these parts of me isn’t a positive attribute in my opinion. It’s being out of touch with myself and, all while deceiving myself into believing this is really a “positive” thing to practice!
This kind of positivity is a type of emotional vanity and shallowness. It bolsters shallow and insecure connections, and is rampant in many religious/faith/spiritual circles, where I would hope to find these spaces to be where I can truly show up and take off the masks.
Owning what is true for me, is a more virtuous pursuit than “staying positive” if that means bullshitting about how I really am. That said, I also understand the sad reality that many people cannot contain the full weight of my truth, so I choose whom I share my vulnerability with, discriminately. As long as I know the truth of where I’m at, and am practicing being clear and honest with myself, and can be seen in this light in at least one other relationship, I think that is a positive thing.
I’m trying to work through the 12-Steps and keep bumping up against what appears as dogma with the Disease Model of addiction. I’m reading Al-Anon approved literature as well as material written by other addiction experts like Gabor Mate and Jamie Marich and am feeling more and more disjointed.
I’ve been personally impacted by a loved one’s addiction and have entered into recovery myself. In 12-Step recovery I’ve been urged to study alcoholism and the disease of addiction. I’ve been studying this subject for years as I’ve been in relationships with people who’ve either been addicted themselves or been impacted by a loved one’s addiction, or both actually. I’m finding myself feeling confused and disjointed, unless I strictly read Al-Anon approved literature! I’m trying to integrate 12-Step approved literature with non-approved addiction literature and am forming my own understanding with as honest and open-minded of an attitude that the Al-Anon program promotes, probably mixed with some of my own defects of character, in process too.
This is my take on addiction thus far coming from someone who finds this subject matter so relevant to her personal life. It’s become an area of passion and vested interest due to my family relationships being touched by addiction. Although I’m not an addiction professional, I represent a voice that’s been deeply impacted by this subject. I’m forming my understanding from a conglomerate of reading from addiction professionals inside and outside of the 12-Step model. It also comes from my lived-experience of going through a loved-one’s relapse into hell. So for whatever it’s worth, I offer my personal reflections from this vantage point. I’m still making sense of my own lived-experience as well as studying the topic of addiction from a variety of sources as I work through the 12-Steps. In other words it’s still slowly brewing, like me. If this benefits someone who has or is going through their own experience of this, I’m grateful.
So without further ado this is my evolving summation on a very complex subject that touches millions of lives every day.
To the Unnamed 12-Step Literature Approvers
I’ve read addiction and codependency literature, outside of your approval. And this is what I’d like to share as a newcomer member of Al-Anon, who also feels deep gratitude for the service of Al-Anon Fellowship. What have we learned about addiction since the 1930’s when A.A. first formed? That it’s complex. And a coherent narrative of addiction in layman’s terms could be that it’s not merely a chronic disease. Consider this narrative that’s backed by addiction and trauma research, and please integrate your approval for literature that offers more. Perhaps something along the lines of this…
Addiction manifests in its burgeoning stage as an unconscious adaptive survival trait in the presence of feeling overwhelming distress, coupled with the absence of a close and secure relationship to an attachment figure like Mom, Dad, or another caregiver.
Notice the Theme, it’s a Duet: Presence + Absence
A presence of Distressing Emotional Experience (based in past and/or present) PLUS an Absence of a Safe enough or secure relationship.
These overwhelming feelings may not even register on the level of conscious awareness until it over-reaches maximum capacity. Until then, the response to overwhelm is constructing and maintaining a thick wall of emotional armor. Any unprocessed feelings from the past accumulate while current feelings which bare any striking resemblance to the past also gets heaped onto the pile. This occurs all while the Absence part of the equation remains – Absence of a Safe Enough or Secure Relationship.
The Absence is a void. A hole consisting of profound disconnection and isolation. A substance or “filler” which acts as a substitute, is reached for in an attempt to fill that void. The momentary relief from pain, and fleeting sensations of pleasure string you along while making increasing demands that you sacrifice more to get more. The constant pursuit and chasing the carrot-on-a-stick can never deliver what you’re pursuing. Freedom from suffering. As this phenomenon takes root like a seemingly innocuous weed, the human’s soul becomes a host for a parasitic-type entity of whatever addictive filler hooks you.
12-Step Fellowships offer a beautiful solution to the Absence part of the equation. The absence of intimate connection which is a fundamental, hardwired, basic human need – creates a void. Filling that void with non-human substances is often a way to cope and while enabling dependency on emotional vulnerability armor. The core issue is an aversion to emotional vulnerability within relationships. When a substance or sabotaging behavior mitigates this aversion despite negative consequences and disturbances in other areas of life, you’ve got the active mechanism of addiction at hand.
So why do relapses occur even after dramatic changes in lifestyle going from using or drinking, to being clean and sober, occur? Well, the other part of the equation needs to be looked at, the presence of distressing experiences especially pertaining to the past which haven’t been processed and integrated.
What came first, the chicken or the egg?
The etiology of addiction is hotly debated among experts, addicts themselves, and those who love them. What came first, the chicken or the egg? The addiction or the unresolved trauma? They both feed off one another, so does it really matter? Not in order to reduce harm and initially get clean and sober. But to stay clean and sober, heal from the aftermath, and truly make living amends – I believe this is relevant.
It’s my developing opinion based from what I’ve learned from various schools of thought and my own experience, that unresolved childhood trauma provides fertile soil for addiction to take root. Along with family history, social conditioning, lifestyle habits, and genetic factors. I don’t hold to the belief that addiction is merely a disease. This belief is antiquated now that so much multidisciplinary scientific inquiry and findings regarding addiction and the plight of human suffering, have been shared.
The strictly disease-based model that posits addiction and/or alcoholism as a disease, is sometimes a helpful simplification for such a complex phenomenon like addiction. Yet further down the road of recovery after encountering relapse, it’s a harmful over-simplification which can create a false sense of security. I believe it inadvertently creates barriers to healing the roots of addiction when these roots prove to be deeper than what first appeared. The disease-model of addiction can inadvertently bypass critical trauma recovery, which can weaken relapse prevention.
Growing up in family subcultures which are reinforced outside the home by the broader culture, enabling self-ignorance, self-neglect, and/or self-abuse in response to distress – creates ripe conditions for addiction. And relapse. An innocent ignorance or a blatant indifference towards healing trauma in response to addiction recovery, furtively enables the practice of emotional self-neglect which often leads to physical self-abuse/harm through drug/alcohol abuse. When this is tacitly considered “normal” within recovery programs, you’ll find that necessary, deeper recovery is stilted, versus the addiction.
I realize my take on addiction and its development doesn’t exclude many people, including myself. Addiction development is quite inclusive and many will be counted as vulnerable towards investing in its empty promises when you have a permissive culture of enabling trauma denial.
Addiction is a very human struggle. It accounts for the struggle of being human in dehumanizing cultures and environments. In my opinion, relegating it as strictly a “disease” seems ignorant. Much has been learned about the nature of addiction and I wish recovery programs would honor this progress. It would help those suffering from addiction and those who love them.
Spiritual principles make room for progression, because you keep an honest and open minded attitude. How can the spirit of 12-Step fellowship principles include the latest findings of addiction without losing it’s unity?Is there room for a different ideology beyond addiction and alcoholism as a disease? Well, even if dogma doesn’t make room for it, my own understanding of the 12-Step spiritual principles, do.
This goes without saying but I’ll say it anyway – these ideas are a representation of my own evolving perspective. Take what serves you, leave the rest.
Intruder Sound the alarm An uncomfortable thought broke in Another unpleasant memory with an unpleasant feeling
Back off, you invader Leave me alone I will resist you I will cut you off You’re an unwelcome
I said “No”
Who is this “I”?
I am the “I” You are also the “I” You’ve forgotten who you are Just because it hurts doesn’t mean you’re going to die I can be trusted with your thoughts, memories, and feelings
Yes, push back Push back the smothering walls in this suffocating house You can contain more – not less Make room for what arises These are not enemies These are honored guests Unpleasant at first yet the more you resist, the more they persist
They come from within, not from afar Where else will they go? They belong to you You kick them out And they’ll return This isn’t a threat It’s dharma, it’s reality Treat them as allies, not as foes The choices is yours This house is laid brick by brick This life is made, choice by choice This one life is yours All yours
I did it again. Practice makes progress in being, me
I felt our collective discomfort but didn’t sell out In that trance-like, shape-shifting blurring into “not really me”, me
As usual I wasn’t paid by your approval I was paid however, by my own
As anticipated, failed approval-seeking came my way I now know what I didn’t, so I don’t despair The fear of rejection subsides So my authentic self doesn’t need to hide
I know in the absence of your approval, is mine But when I reject my authenticity I taste it in my gut I taste it in my soul And it always leaves a hole
Damn, the anxiety I once felt when falling in that hole It left such disparity in my soul In that disparity I found MY soul But it never truly left me, it was only but an illusion The absence of your validation doesn’t cause such an ego contusion Where once forsaken energy can flow, that which truly satisfies me whole
Long entangled strings from old baggage seem to follow, like a shadow.
The longer you’ve traveled this earth, the more you collect. In it can be treasures or and, rotten waste.
Open up your baggage! Its damn flowing train is getting too long! It’s now a tripping hazard for you and for me!
I wish it were as easy as the Baggage Claim at the airport. Travelers recognize their own or can check the name tag. But this baggage isn’t so easily claimed! It’s mistakenly claimed as mine when it’s really yours!
Back and forth the disclaimed and misclaimed baggage gets passionately tossed between us. Like a hot potato. Scorched are the hands who hold on too long.
Not all of this will burn. There are unclaimed treasures inside too. There’s been a spill from the unfinished business of your past. It has contaminated everything.
When you indiscriminately throw away your past, it comes back. Boomerang. Give and it will be given back? Karmic energy?
Reclaim the abandoned energy within and between you. This will be a joint success, a joint failure, or a joint holding pattern; awaiting clearance. You cannot abandon this energy force, without consequence.
The whole is more than the sum of its parts.
The whole is more than the sum of its parts.
So… Whose shit is this? It’s ours.
Your past, my past Your beliefs, my beliefs Your experiences, my experiences Your pain, my pain Your dreams, my dreams Your grief, my grief Your fears, my fears Your victories, my victories Your strengths, my strengths Your weaknesses, my weaknesses
It all goes into one bag. Like different threads, weaved into a tapestry.
Joint ownership. Joint consequences. Joint time limit.
One bag One tapestry Many threads Our threads
We work to carry it together and move on, Or we toss it back and forth together And, remain firmly stuck in a holding pattern; awaiting clearance… someday. Who knows when?
Meanwhile, time passes by. Time – non-renewable resource. Time. No returns, refunds, or exchanges.
Whose shit is this? Ours. Whose treasure is this? Ours.